Sunday, February 15, 2009

Twelve Ways To Win People To Your Way Of Thinking


  1. First, a courteous deportment and an attitude of appreciation will open the door to many hearts.
  2. Be attentive and let the other person do a great deal of the talking. Remember, speak ill of no one but speak well and good of everyone.
  3. Be sympathetic with the other person's ideas and desires. It lies in the ability to get the other person's point of view and see things from his angle as well as from your own.
  4. Be social, be conscientious and let the other person know that you are on his side and thus gain his confidence.
  5. Create curiosity and arouse in the other person an eager want or interest. Then show him how to get it with all benefits.
  6. Dramatize your idea with showmanship only on high points or interests and then let the person feel that the idea is his.
  7. Be enthusiastic and use encouragement. Make the things you want the other person to do seem easy to accomplish and achieve.
  8. Instead of stressing your own point of view, gently ask queations of opinions and get the other person to answer "Yes, yes" all the time.
  9. Praise the slightest improvement and praise the very improvement.
  10. Appeal to the nobler motives and aspirations.
  11. Give the person a fine reputation to live up to.
  12. Throw down a challenge with the desire to excel and be unique. By the power of persuasion direct that desire to conviction and fruition.
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3 comments:

  1. AnonymousFebruary 18, 2009 at 1:52 PM

    Tidak semua apa yang kita inginkan @ impikan akan kita perolehi. Begitu juga, apa yang kita mahu daripada orang lain akan kita capai @ mereka akan ikut apa yang kita katakan @ arahkan. Realitinya kita berbeza dan selalu tidak sependapat. Kita nak orang lain ikut cakap kita, tapi sebaliknya kita tidak cuba memahami kehendak mereka.Sepatutnya ada timbal balik. Kesannya apabila tidak sependapat dan sehaluan maka perhubungan akan berantakan. Putus. Adakah berbaloi? Yang penting keikhlasan dan kejujuran.

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  2. kandot65February 19, 2009 at 9:48 AM

    Memang diakui setiap manusia adalah "berbeza" dan tidak semua yang kita harapkan/inginkan akan tertunai dan dapat dicapai.Berbeza pendapat tidak bermakna kita tidak boleh mencapai kata sepakat dan menerima pandangan orang lain.Kita kena cari di mana ada titik persamaan di hujungnya.Kata orang kampung kamek, "give and take" lah. Kita mungkin hanya mampu memberi pendapat dan pandangan tetapi dari segi penerimaannya terpulang kepada pendirian masing-masing.Yang lebih penting kita sudah mengorak langkah untuk melakukannya.

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  3. AnonymousFebruary 20, 2009 at 8:10 AM

    Bukan senang nak cari titik persamaan pok. Bak kata kitak dalam "Cuit sikit: hanya nyebut sebahagian ajak.
    Senang je....to judge the mistakes of others
    Susah is....to recognize our own mistakes
    Senang ...is to criticize others
    Paling susah...is to improve oneself
    Paling senang dan best...is to receive
    paling susah dan tak best ....is to give
    Senang...is to promise something to someone
    Susah....is to fulfill that promise....

    "Bukan senang nak senang dan bukan susah nak susah" Perlu ada toleransi kata orang kampung kamek selain "give and take" kata orang kampung kitak.

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